Have you ever wondered why a man would work so hard to get a lady, promise her the world, treat her like a queen, and then when he gets her — he treats her the same way for a while — just for a while, and then it seems like the law of diminishing marginal utility begins to step — in the sense that the more he sees that same woman he once adored, the lesser he wants to be with her; and just before she knows it, another lady becomes the apple of his eyes.
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What’s the cause of this most times? Why do a lot of men keep playing this scene over and over again?
Well, let’s find out some reasons why:
1. CAUGHT OUT IN EXPECTATIONS
When a man sees a beautiful woman, he craves for her, he feels like she’s just almost perfect — and that’s the first real problem. When he then gets her and finds she’s just like every other human, with her flaws too, he could get disenchanted and leave if he sees another woman that might satisfy his illusion.
2. YOU NEVER HAD HIM
This is one usual scenario, but most times ladies don’t know when it happens to them. Some honest facts about men are: the fact he treats you like a queen doesn’t mean you’re his queen, the fact he says he loves you don’t actually mean he does, and the fact you think you guys are in a relationship don’t mean you are in a relationship. So in this situation, you never had him, even though you thought you did; so leaving you for another woman would always come up in this situation.
3. IT COULD BE THE WOMAN TOO
How many men have loved a woman sincerely for who she is, but then couldn’t keep up with her naggings, complaining, anger, pride, jealousy, esteem issues and a whole lot? A lot of men have been through this, and in the long run, it builds a certain irritation in him. At this stage, it’s easy for him to find solace in another woman, and it wouldn’t come as a surprise if he leaves for her.
4. YOUR FOUL MOUTH
Some ladies think it’s their birth right to rain down on any soul, friends or strangers. Come on, no man would find that trait attractive. That attitude isn’t ladylike and won’t get you a good man.
5. SCARED OF COMMITMENT
When a man isn’t ready, he isn’t ready, and there is little to nothing you can do about that. For a man that’s scared of commitment, when he sees the relationship is getting too serious, he might bail — for no other reason but for the fear of commitment, and he might move to one who isn’t ready to commit.
6. DOES NOT SEE A FUTURE WITH YOU
In this situation, the lady doesn’t even need to do anything wrong, but the man would just know that he doesn’t really have a future with her; he cares about her but doesn’t see a future with her, so he’s only serious with her just for the moment, till he sees the woman that matches who he wants to have a future with.
7. CHANGES
Sometimes it’s changes in the woman that causes withdrawal from the man; in the sense that she stopped doing what she used to do when they started dating, or she stopped being who she used to be. The lady might not even be aware of this, but the man would deem it that she’s changing for the worse. Not every man knows how to really communicate with his partner, and if he’s that type of man, withdrawing from that woman would be his next step.
8. ATTRACTION
A loss of attraction accounts for a major reason why a man leaves his lady for another. Attraction and a loss of it accounts for what draws a man to a woman and also what takes him away. When he’s attracted to you, your company is usually cherished, but the moment he starts losing that attraction, it could be for another person.
9. UNREALISTIC DEMANDS
Some ladies think that a man needs to skin himself off just to show how much he loves you and in this case I mean money-wise. When you keep demanding that 5 star service for everything you want from a man he fins every reason to run away from you. A man needs a woman who is gonna help him build his life and finances not destroy them.
10. WRONG FRIENDS
Believe it or not but just as you ladies think of a guy and his friends, so does he think of yours. If all your friends are living the fast lane route (you know what I mean), a guy will assume you do the same things and will not commit to you. Like they always say, birds of a feather flock together.
Image by Cosmopolitan MagazineWhat’s the cause of this most times? Why do a lot of men keep playing this scene over and over again?
Well, let’s find out some reasons why:
1. CAUGHT OUT IN EXPECTATIONS
When a man sees a beautiful woman, he craves for her, he feels like she’s just almost perfect — and that’s the first real problem. When he then gets her and finds she’s just like every other human, with her flaws too, he could get disenchanted and leave if he sees another woman that might satisfy his illusion.
2. YOU NEVER HAD HIM
This is one usual scenario, but most times ladies don’t know when it happens to them. Some honest facts about men are: the fact he treats you like a queen doesn’t mean you’re his queen, the fact he says he loves you don’t actually mean he does, and the fact you think you guys are in a relationship don’t mean you are in a relationship. So in this situation, you never had him, even though you thought you did; so leaving you for another woman would always come up in this situation.
3. IT COULD BE THE WOMAN TOO
How many men have loved a woman sincerely for who she is, but then couldn’t keep up with her naggings, complaining, anger, pride, jealousy, esteem issues and a whole lot? A lot of men have been through this, and in the long run, it builds a certain irritation in him. At this stage, it’s easy for him to find solace in another woman, and it wouldn’t come as a surprise if he leaves for her.
4. YOUR FOUL MOUTH
Some ladies think it’s their birth right to rain down on any soul, friends or strangers. Come on, no man would find that trait attractive. That attitude isn’t ladylike and won’t get you a good man.
5. SCARED OF COMMITMENT
When a man isn’t ready, he isn’t ready, and there is little to nothing you can do about that. For a man that’s scared of commitment, when he sees the relationship is getting too serious, he might bail — for no other reason but for the fear of commitment, and he might move to one who isn’t ready to commit.
6. DOES NOT SEE A FUTURE WITH YOU
In this situation, the lady doesn’t even need to do anything wrong, but the man would just know that he doesn’t really have a future with her; he cares about her but doesn’t see a future with her, so he’s only serious with her just for the moment, till he sees the woman that matches who he wants to have a future with.
7. CHANGES
Sometimes it’s changes in the woman that causes withdrawal from the man; in the sense that she stopped doing what she used to do when they started dating, or she stopped being who she used to be. The lady might not even be aware of this, but the man would deem it that she’s changing for the worse. Not every man knows how to really communicate with his partner, and if he’s that type of man, withdrawing from that woman would be his next step.
8. ATTRACTION
A loss of attraction accounts for a major reason why a man leaves his lady for another. Attraction and a loss of it accounts for what draws a man to a woman and also what takes him away. When he’s attracted to you, your company is usually cherished, but the moment he starts losing that attraction, it could be for another person.
9. UNREALISTIC DEMANDS
Some ladies think that a man needs to skin himself off just to show how much he loves you and in this case I mean money-wise. When you keep demanding that 5 star service for everything you want from a man he fins every reason to run away from you. A man needs a woman who is gonna help him build his life and finances not destroy them.
10. WRONG FRIENDS
Believe it or not but just as you ladies think of a guy and his friends, so does he think of yours. If all your friends are living the fast lane route (you know what I mean), a guy will assume you do the same things and will not commit to you. Like they always say, birds of a feather flock together.
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